How to Support a Loved One Struggling With Depression
When someone you care about is experiencing depression, it can be hard to know what to say or how to help. You might feel helpless, confused, or worried you’ll say the wrong thing. But the truth is—your presence and compassion can mean more than you know.
Ways to Support
Check in regularly: Even a quick “Thinking of you” text can mean the world. Depression can be isolating, and consistent check-ins build connection.
Listen without fixing: You don’t need to have solutions. Just offering your full attention, without judgment, helps create a safe space.
Validate their feelings: Depression is real. Avoid minimizing it or suggesting quick fixes. Instead say: “What you’re feeling is valid. I’m here.”
Offer tangible support: Ask, “Can I bring you lunch?” or “Want me to go with you to your appointment?” Small gestures can ease the burden.
Respect their pace: Encourage, but don’t pressure. Trust them to move through healing at their own speed.
What to Avoid
Toxic positivity: Phrases like “Just stay positive” can feel dismissive. Instead, acknowledge the difficulty.
Making it about yourself: Center the conversation on their experience. Try not to compare or shift focus.
Assuming they’re okay because they’re smiling: Depression isn’t always visible. Keep checking in.
When to Encourage Professional Help
If your loved one is struggling to function day-to-day
If they’re expressing thoughts of self-harm or hopelessness
If you’re concerned but don’t know how to help anymore
You can say: “I care about you and I think talking to someone might really help. I’m happy to go with you or help you find someone.”
At ReAlign Wellness Group, we work with individuals to navigate depression with care, skill, and cultural awareness. You don’t have to walk this road alone—support is here for you, and for the people you love.